The year has started, we are 3 weeks in, have you given up already?
In my last blog, I mentioned the importance of the why. Why did you choose that specific resolution? Now that you have been living it for a couple of weeks, the novelty and the energy starting on that path are winding down.
Now is the time to look for ways to rejuvenate the energy needed to accomplish any big goals. I want to refer you to the eleventh step of the book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill and its newer version from Sharon Lechter, “Think & Grow Rich for Women”
If you feel your desire to succeed is failing, here are a couple of things that are happening. The first one is your negative thoughts are coming back. I promise you that. Things like: Why do I have to do this? You never succeeded in the past? Who do you think you are?
I am not asking you to control your thoughts all the time, as that would be madness, but managing your thoughts is like a muscle. If you do not keep an eye on them, they will go back to their own ways. Don’t forget: “In order to do something you’ve never done, you’ve got to become someone you’ve never been.” – Les Brown.
It is no longer fake it ‘til you make it; it is now fake it until you become it. Manage your thoughts so they serve you and help you succeed. A negative thought cannot exist in your mind at the same time as a positive thought.
The second thing that may be happening is about your feelings. How do you feel about your goal? If the feeling is negative then you will sabotage your goal. Human beings will do anything to feel good (consciously or not). So go back to your why. Why did you pick that goal? And search for all the great feelings that reaching that goal will bring you. Also find great feelings for the journey, otherwise it will be long and painful. Look for small daily achievable tasks that you can be happy about at the end of the day. If your goal is to get back into shape, then be thrilled at the end of the when you do your review that you went to the gym and ate a salad.
Some of you might say that changing is scary and you are happier not changing after all. This is the third step: Look at your beliefs. Saying to yourself: that changing is scary is a belief. How is that belief serving you? Is it helping you achieve your goals? What you believe will always be stronger than what you desire. So if your beliefs are going against your desires, you have to change your beliefs. Otherwise you are wasting your time. See this blog on how to change your beliefs:
For more in depth reading, check out this book: You’ve lost weight, now what?
So if you’ve reached a moment where you feel less inclined to pursue your goal, look at your why, your thoughts, your feelings and your beliefs.
Have fun, and do not forget: it’s the journey that counts.